A trainer once taught me that we all have a fight or flight response – but people tend to lean toward one or the another. When hurt, scared or overwhelmed, people either fight or flee.
The problem is that if we let ourselves get into the adrenal response, we have lost our ability to meet the moment and get the best from it.
The conflict from those moments doesn’t have to push your buttons. You can learn to use tension to propel you forward.
A pastor who spoke this last weekend invited us to read his blog. “Tell me how you don’t agree with me! I’d love to hear from you.”
Facebook’s vice president of marketing, Carolyn Everson, told reports recently: “I love being challenged…when people doubt us, that’s when we’re at our best.”
When people disagree with you, do you feel defensive? When they doubt your ability, do you feel degraded? Does it trigger your adrenal response to fight back, or run away? This verse might help:
Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ.
You see, you have a perfectly reasonable point of view. However, you are human, and you can only see things from one perspective. God put you on earth where lots of people are available to help you improve. When people disagree with you, they are giving you information you didn’t have before. It really doesn’t matter if they are completely in left field, or right on the money. The exercise of responding to them with dignity and patience will help you learn and grow.
It is hard to stand up and defend what you think with love and respect. But when you do, you will find a new strength.
What do you do when people doubt you?